Love Lasts a Lifetime: A Guide for Couples
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Love Lasts a Lifetime: A Guide for Couples
19.99 €
A classic book about family relationships that has been successfully sold for more than thirty years (!) and translated into dozens of languages. It is based on more than thirty years of the authors' experience, which has helped hundreds of couples to save their marriages.
A book that can rightly be called a "legendary bestseller," and that would not be an exaggeration or a cliché.
Harvill and Helen had both experienced failed marriages: neither having children nor counseling with therapists had saved their previous relationships. Harville longed to find the answer to the ultimate question: what was the cause of conflicts, crises, and breakups between spouses who once loved each other so much. He felt that, in addition to external problems, there was some underlying cause, and wanted to explore it comprehensively. Helen supported him in this endeavor. They formed not only a family but also a professional union.
As a result of years of research, they came to the conclusion that the relationship with partners is strongly influenced by the experience received in childhood. We choose partners unconsciously, under the influence of images from the past, imprinted in the depths of our memory. Therefore, our partners, as a rule, combine negative and positive traits of those people who brought us up.
Love is the desire to find the harmony we felt in our mother's womb. When faced with reality, we lose the sense of security we come into this world with. Every time a parent distances themselves from their child without noticing, for example, their crying, the child goes through the painful experience of breaking the bond with a loved one, and in love we try to reestablish that bond. We reproduce the negative experience of the past, wanting this time to "emerge victorious", to heal our childhood trauma. However, unconscious expectations are not always justified, and as a result we get problems in family life: spouses relive their childhood problems, now in their relationship with their partners. Hence conflicts, crises and divorces.
Harville and Helen offer a way to remedy the situation. This is Imago Psychotherapy, aimed at improving interaction with the partner. Dialogue plays a key role in it. Positive experiences with a partner are encoded by the ancient brain into new connections between brain cells. The more such positive interactions, the stronger the new pathway becomes, while the old and destructive one - the one that originated in childhood - will begin to lose strength (less messengers flow between cells) and the ability to interfere with your relationship. As a result, the couple comes to a conscious partnership - a relationship that is characterized by mutual support and contributes to the psychological and spiritual growth of both partners.
The book has a theoretical part (helps answer the questions, "What's wrong" and "Why is this happening?") and a practical part - exercises that will help achieve a conscious partnership, when spouses become one.
A book that can rightly be called a "legendary bestseller," and that would not be an exaggeration or a cliché.
Harvill and Helen had both experienced failed marriages: neither having children nor counseling with therapists had saved their previous relationships. Harville longed to find the answer to the ultimate question: what was the cause of conflicts, crises, and breakups between spouses who once loved each other so much. He felt that, in addition to external problems, there was some underlying cause, and wanted to explore it comprehensively. Helen supported him in this endeavor. They formed not only a family but also a professional union.
As a result of years of research, they came to the conclusion that the relationship with partners is strongly influenced by the experience received in childhood. We choose partners unconsciously, under the influence of images from the past, imprinted in the depths of our memory. Therefore, our partners, as a rule, combine negative and positive traits of those people who brought us up.
Love is the desire to find the harmony we felt in our mother's womb. When faced with reality, we lose the sense of security we come into this world with. Every time a parent distances themselves from their child without noticing, for example, their crying, the child goes through the painful experience of breaking the bond with a loved one, and in love we try to reestablish that bond. We reproduce the negative experience of the past, wanting this time to "emerge victorious", to heal our childhood trauma. However, unconscious expectations are not always justified, and as a result we get problems in family life: spouses relive their childhood problems, now in their relationship with their partners. Hence conflicts, crises and divorces.
Harville and Helen offer a way to remedy the situation. This is Imago Psychotherapy, aimed at improving interaction with the partner. Dialogue plays a key role in it. Positive experiences with a partner are encoded by the ancient brain into new connections between brain cells. The more such positive interactions, the stronger the new pathway becomes, while the old and destructive one - the one that originated in childhood - will begin to lose strength (less messengers flow between cells) and the ability to interfere with your relationship. As a result, the couple comes to a conscious partnership - a relationship that is characterized by mutual support and contributes to the psychological and spiritual growth of both partners.
The book has a theoretical part (helps answer the questions, "What's wrong" and "Why is this happening?") and a practical part - exercises that will help achieve a conscious partnership, when spouses become one.
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